Self Esteem

To learn how to have self-confidence is directly related to the beliefs we have about ourselves, those qualities, skills, and ways of feeling or thinking that we attribute, make up our personal image or "self-image". The "self" is the assessment we make of ourselves based on the feelings and experiences that we have incorporated throughout life. We are smart or foolish, capable or incapable based on this mental image.

This self-assessment is very important since it largely depends on realizing our potential and our achievements in life. Thus, people who feel excellent about themselves and have a good self-esteem can tackle and solve the challenges and responsibilities that life poses. By contrast, those with low self-esteem tend to limit themselves and fail.

People are complex and very difficult to define in few words. Because there are so many nuances to take into account is important not to generalize just from one or two aspects of the person. The concept of self is developing slowly throughout life. Each stage contributes to a greater or lesser degree, experiences and feelings that will result in an overall sense of worth and disability.

In childhood, we discover that we are boys or girls; we have hands, legs, head and other parts of our body. We also discovered that we are different from others and that there are people who will accept us or reject us. From these early experiences of acceptance and rejection of others is when we begin to generate an idea of what we value and what we prefer to ignore.

A child who is suffering from obesity may turn out to be a happy adult or probably a very miserable person when he grows up. It all depends upon the attitude shown by the others to his or her excess weight during childhood. During adolescence, one of the most critical phases for developing a good self-esteem, it is necessary to forge an identity of security and independence and get to know their potential as an individual.

They also need social support of others whose values match their own; this will be extremely helpful to move forward with confidence to the future. This can become the time when the boy moves from dependence on people who he loves (family) to independence, and finally to trust their intuition and ideals.

If childhood has developed a strong self-esteem, it is relatively easy to overcome any crisis and reach maturity without any issues. If the boy feels depressed, he could be in potential danger, and most likely look for support from destructive sources as drug addiction. A very low self-esteem is related to a distortion of the thinking mind (wrong way of thinking).

People with don't have a healthy self-esteem have many distorted views of how his or her life works; at the same time, these people hold some extremely perfectionist demands on how thing should be or what should be happening. If you know anyone with these self-destructive symptoms, or you are personally suffering from them, please seek help as soon as possible. You can take control, and it's better to do it before it becomes uncontrollable.

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