Self Esteem

Improving Self Confidence has to do with first figuring out the cause of self-doubt...

As it turns out, psychologists have made an important discovery in the past few years. We all have what some psychologists call "memes". That is, that which we tend to believe about ourselves. The discovery is that we all think in pictures, or images, so when we encounter something that has made us feel "less than", then we store that image away - for years! So when it comes to improving self confidence, you first need to examine where your inhibitions lie and what caused them.

For example, supposed you had encountered an experience when you were a child and a particular situation embarrassed you, then you would be less likely to even attempt this as an adult.

Authority figures, while well meaning, can sometimes keep us from improving self confidence...

My Dad used to say that a cold comes in through the feet and out through the nose. Whenever I would have a runny nose from allergies, he would remind me that I'm getting a cold and it's because I was barefoot.

Being the rebel I was, I did continue to go barefoot, but also continued with uncontrollable allergies and caught colds all the time! Now I go barefoot all the time still, but I'm rarely sick and have virtually no allergies. So it is possible to change your way of thinking once you target the source of what has keep you from improving self confidence.

Another thing I noticed about myself that may have been cause of self-doubt has to do with interstate driving. Actually, since I really don't like to travel, I never attempted to combat this cause of self-doubt.

But I know where it came from. My mother was always worried about me driving on the interstate and, even when I became an adult, she voiced her concern and worry. This was stored in my brain as an image of my own lack of self confidence with interstate driving. To this day I feel uneasy about interstate driving! (Come to think of it, maybe that's why I don't like to travel today?)

Improving self confidence has everything to do with how you communicate with yourself...

Here's the thing: We all communicate to ourselves in the form of images in the mind.

For example, when you're about to go on stage to give a speech (something that on average frightens more people than death), you could feel your heart beating faster and convince yourself you're having a nervous breakdown and you just can't do it.

Or, you could convince yourself that you're so pumped up and exited that your excitement is sure to be felt by your audience and you just know you're going to be giving a great speech!

But here's what you really need to do first for improving self confidence...

You need to let go of all blame. Did my dad screw me up with the barefoot thing? Sure. Did Mom screw me up with the worry about driving thing? Sure. But they did the best they could. I'm just going to spill the beans here and say that parents are human, and humans make mistakes.

Fortunately, my parent's mistakes were, for the most part, mild. But I have a friend whose mom used to beat her and make her cook the family's dinner and not allow her to have any. But she forgave her and continued on a decent relationship with her in adult life. Because we only hurt ourselves when we can't forgive.

The thing is, if you continue to blame others for your own "lack of self confidence", then you give that "other person" all the power.

If they made, you, then only they can change you. But when you can accept that you were responsible for the way you turned out, then you have the power to change. We all teach people around us how to treat us.

It is a known fact now that the human body has every since changed cell in a seven year span. I find this revolutionizing when I listen to the self-help and marketing MP3 audio files from my I-pod, because the same thing I listened to a few months ago that didn't sink in at all, now suddenly is making sense. It's like every time I listen, I hear with "different ears".

When you're ready to start improving self confidence to bring up your self image and sales techniques, it's time to accept blame on yourself for the past, so you can move onto the new you for the future.

The accepting blame thing is from one of my favorite audios from the Empower Network Inner Circle training, where it's brought out that when you can accept responsibility for how you are, you can simply say to yourself, "well, I now take back that permission to be insecure"... and change your life!  If you're ready to change your life today and listen to audio trainings that can help with improving self confidence as you evolve into a competent internet marketer, AND enjoy making 100% commissions online, CLICK THIS LINK NOW

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