Building Confidence: 3 Reasons Other People May Not Like You
Life ain't easy. Toss in some human interaction and our lives can really seem tough. Here's the deal: it's all in your head.
Building confidence is all about perception: yours and that of others. This article is all about how other people see you and the assumptions they make.
You know what stinks about not dealing with this problem now? It'll only get worse. I've never met a single person that wants to have LESS friends. Are you at the point where you've almost given up?
Don't! There is hope! Problem is, the solution starts with you. Let's take a look at 3 reasons you may be repelling instead of attracting others.
Your Breath Reeks: It may not just be your breath. It could be the way you dress (sloppy?), your lack of personal hygiene (no Old Spice?) or your weight. Some aspect of your physical being could be killing your chances. You don't have to be the best looking dude in the room, but it sure as heck helps if you're squared away. You do know they sell sugar free mint gum now, right? Don't let little bad habits get in the way of expanding your friendships. Take a personal inventory. Ask a co-worker. Ask your Mom. Find out what's repulsive and fix it.
Crappy Attitude: I like an occasional snarky joke just like the next guy, but an unending waterfall of negative jokes and comments is a quick way to NoFriendVille. Check the attitude at the door, don't joke at expense of others and focus on wearing a permagrin (not really, that would be scary). Bottom line: if you want to have the confidence to continue building great relationships, you need to have a positive and supportive attitude. Only you can fix that.
Baby in the Corner: What did Patrick Swayze say? "Nobody puts Baby in the corner." Damn straight. You should have the same attitude. Start your confidence building mission by not putting yourself in the corner. Stop being a wallflower. Get involved in the conversation. Say hello to a stranger. If you're stressed out about not being included, find a new group. Make a new group.
Did any of this resonate with you? Are you coming to the harsh reality that Bobby left you because he couldn't stand your racist jokes? Did you just remember that your last girlfriend mentioned something about a teeth cleaning before she left for good? Realizing that you never said one word in your whole semester in Wine-Making 101?
Make a conscious decision that you will start building your confidence today. Look in the mirror and make a change.
What change will you make?
Carlos Cooper is a speaker and trainer. He focuses on helping men develop their inner Warrior. A former Marine, Carlos also host a weekly radio show. Visit him online here: http://www.carloscooper.com/. Subscribe for his FREE newsletter here: http://forms.aweber.com/form/64/1923406764.htm
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